tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13413023721727846742024-03-20T22:02:58.161-04:00The Unknown Soldiers by Tom SileoThis website is about valiant U.S. troops who do their duty - largely without media attention or fanfare – and how a nation at war cannot afford to stand idly by.Tom Sileohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09597602184333457928noreply@blogger.comBlogger367125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1341302372172784674.post-13450517093916275612014-12-31T09:30:00.000-05:002014-12-31T09:30:00.346-05:00Thank You<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWWho-RRTmHik-tPzxLNrhu82XzG_PZgzJeqXDHIHszo-A4pT8TsCMOnl3A4gJHk1AhDfAie55HFEtSt7e8snleKfQN4VZuxT3FlKqF5xy_1jW5EOILU_aqQg2apH_WhN4zUABnoATkTU/s1600/317378.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhWWho-RRTmHik-tPzxLNrhu82XzG_PZgzJeqXDHIHszo-A4pT8TsCMOnl3A4gJHk1AhDfAie55HFEtSt7e8snleKfQN4VZuxT3FlKqF5xy_1jW5EOILU_aqQg2apH_WhN4zUABnoATkTU/s1600/317378.jpg" height="266" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i>Image courtesy: <b>Staff Sgt. Joseph Swafford</b></i></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The sight of a fallen hero's flag-draped casket returning to American soil. The sound of a grieving loved one's anguish. The indelible memory of meeting a young man or woman who lost one or more limbs on the battlefield.</div><br />
Since February 2011, when my <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/02/closer-to-you.html">first newspaper column</a> was released, these devastating moments have echoed through every facet of my life. The last three and a half years have been difficult and emotional, but what I've endured is nothing compared to what a U.S. service member, veteran or military family sacrifices on a daily basis.<br />
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The Americans I've met and spoken to while writing this weekly column are some of the most extraordinary people on the planet. They are brave, selfless, and strong. They are husbands, wives, dads, moms, brothers and sisters. They are, without a doubt, the best our nation can offer to a troubled world that is in dire need of America's leadership and compassion.<br />
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Even though I had <a href="http://afghanistan.blogs.cnn.com/2009/12/11/soldiers-death-spurs-girlfriends-mission-to-africa/">worked at CNN</a> and <a href="http://vimeo.com/11306075">blogged about the military</a> before launching this column, I came into this effort with little understanding of the Armed Forces. I knew our troops were courageous, but didn't realize just how much is required of service members and their families. I knew that families of the fallen suffered, but failed to grasp that for them, the war will never end.<br />
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I knew that many combat veterans came home from war with harrowing memories, but didn't have a handle on what witnessing the evil of America's enemies could do to a young man or woman. I knew that suicide in the military was a problem, but couldn't have possibly understood its gravity before speaking to family members suffering from the permanent grief and confusion of a loved one taking their own life.<br />
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In short, I knew almost nothing about military life. I started writing the column because I thought that millions of Americans probably felt the same way: They respected our Armed Forces, but didn't fully comprehend the depth of the military community's sacrifice.<br />
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Less than 1 percent of Americans serve in uniform. While many of my relatives served in previous wars, I only knew one person who had deployed to Iraq or Afghanistan before I started interviewing troops and veterans. My guess is that many people reading this column have a similar connection, or lack thereof, to the America's post-9/11 conflicts.<br />
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It is absolutely critical that every single one of us makes a concerted effort to learn more about the men and women who protect us. We can't help solve the many challenges that our heroes face if we have no understanding of their sacrifices.<br />
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Whether it's been a story about a fallen hero, veteran or service member, I hope this column has given you a better appreciation of this new Greatest Generation, as some now rightfully refer to our nation's volunteer warriors. For me, the way I look at our military will never be the same. Our men and women in uniform are even more heroic than I thought they were.<br />
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My daughter is 3 years old. Someday, I will ask her to read the stories of the men and women who stepped forward to defend our nation after it was attacked. Rather than trying to follow in the footsteps of so-called celebrities, I hope she will grow up wanting to be like our nation's real stars: those who are willing to fight for freedom.<br />
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A new career opportunity is forcing me to end this column. From the bottom of my heart, thank you to <a href="http://www.creators.com/">Creators Syndicate</a> and my editor, Simone Slykhous, for your graciousness and guidance. Thank you to each newspaper for running these weekly stories, and to you for reading them.<br />
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Most of all, thank you to the troops, veterans and military families who trusted me to help tell your incredible stories. I am in awe of your kindness, integrity, and valor.<br />
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I conclude this journey with a quote from "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>," which I co-authored with the father of a fallen Marine. The short passage was written to describe thousands of headstones at Arlington National Cemetery, where so many American heroes rest.<br />
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"There is no inscription to define the meaning of their sacrifice. That mission is ours."<br />
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<iframe src="//www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.unknownsoldiersblog.com%2F2014%2F12%2Fthank-you.html&width=450&layout=standard&action=recommend&show_faces=false&share=false&height=35" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" style="border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:35px;" allowTransparency="true"></iframe>Tom Sileohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09597602184333457928noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1341302372172784674.post-75170190368409268592014-09-17T09:39:00.000-04:002014-09-24T12:05:10.038-04:00Landon's Mom and Dad<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEichTeWs6WMXXREmZ8iRIQ7aEG3TLm31B-LLWVd5YATmg8aKE_BHAuujXswL8cCeuPLGgxMerP5LbHE0shTpklDPoNpWpmPmEICWUOyQ9cVMCP2kcSfdOJN0cAMSDk-ztjwnX3eD9sGtWY/s1600/204611_10150230897887265_511322264_8464788_733963_o.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEichTeWs6WMXXREmZ8iRIQ7aEG3TLm31B-LLWVd5YATmg8aKE_BHAuujXswL8cCeuPLGgxMerP5LbHE0shTpklDPoNpWpmPmEICWUOyQ9cVMCP2kcSfdOJN0cAMSDk-ztjwnX3eD9sGtWY/s1600/204611_10150230897887265_511322264_8464788_733963_o.jpg" height="270" width="400" /></a></div><i>Image courtesy: Marcia Truitt/Inara Studios</i><br />
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The first time <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/03/it-is-what-it-is.html">I spoke to Crissie Carpenter</a>, she had just suffered an unimaginable tragedy. Days earlier, her husband had passed away after being wounded in Afghanistan, all while she was eight months pregnant with their first child.<br />
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<b>Lance Cpl. Andrew Carpenter</b> wanted nothing more than to get to know his son, Landon, when he returned from Afghanistan. While an enemy sniper robbed Andrew of that chance, the Marine's widow immediately resolved that Landon's father would always be in their son's life.<br />
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"I want Landon to grow up knowing who his daddy is," Crissie told me in March 2011.<br />
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Three and a half years later, Crissie still endures pain, anxiety, and the challenges of being a single mom.<br />
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"Some people will say that the more time goes by, the easier it gets," she told me on Sept. 4. "That's not necessarily true ... at least for me it's not."<br />
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Despite her constant grief, Crissie's focus remains singular. All of her remarkable strength and energy goes toward Landon, who is now 3.<br />
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"I'm just so proud of him," the young mother and widow said.<br />
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I attended <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/03/through-and-through.html">Lance Cpl. Carpenter's memorial service</a> on Feb. 28, 2011 in Columbia, Tennessee. The sight of his open casket is burned into my memory, as is the devastation on the face of his pregnant wife. Yet throughout this horrific ordeal, which started when her husband was shot in the neck on Valentine's Day, Crissie has embodied the military community's incredible courage.<br />
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"I finished my bachelor's (degree) last December, and am now in a graduate program for social work," she said. "So I feel like maybe God is just keeping us on path."<br />
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"As far as where we are today compared to where we were then, I feel like we've both grown in a sense that we're close," Crissie said. "We definitely have a cool relationship."<br />
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Still, the little boy has "had a long road," as his mother explained. Landon's journey helps contradict one of the biggest misperceptions about war: that a given conflict is over once troops come home. For many veterans, families of the fallen, and particularly children afflicted by war, America's post-9/11 conflicts will last the rest of their lives.<br />
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"It's amazing how many questions a 3-year-old can have," Crissie said. "I didn't expect that to happen so fast."<br />
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After Crissie gave a speech at an event hosted by <a href="http://www.foldsofhonor.org">Folds of Honor</a>, which awarded her a scholarship for school, Landon had a particularly difficult question.<br />
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"He asked, 'Mommy, was my daddy shot by a gun when he died?'" Crissie recounted. "That sounds like such a grown-up question by a 3-year-old. I just kind of sat there and I didn't know what to say."<br />
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After collecting her thoughts, Crissie drew a comparison to the story of Batman, which her husband always revered.<br />
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"So now (Landon) relates his dad to a superhero, protecting us from the bad guys," she said.<br />
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Still, the questions about the circumstances of his father's death keep coming.<br />
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"I had to explain to Landon, that we want to remember daddy happy," Crissie said. "It amazes me what a 3-year-old can think about."<br />
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It amazes me how tough a 3-year-old can be. But when one considers the characteristics of his parents, maybe the little boy's tenacity isn't so shocking.<br />
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"Every day he surprises me with different things that remind of his daddy," Landon's mom said.<br />
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Crissie is also thankful for the outpouring of support she's received since the day her husband was shot.<br />
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"Everything that everyone has done has been an incredible blessing for us, and continues to be," she said.<br />
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Lance Cpl. Andrew Carpenter, 27, died on Feb. 19, 2011. Yet more than three years later, the fallen Marine, along with his wife and son, set an example that all of us can follow.<br />
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"I'm not always the best mom in the world," Crissie Carpenter said.<br />
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Yes, Crissie, you are.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjYA2zsOBV6DDEWkx_FqlNjODHuggAnzUIr45dxkgC-fMpLunhdvmWa-Da_jTiGooUM-IY8yPMfuc0txd4EmnP5AzzQLu-xEykqYM_j4FsfxY1Nt5LjVPgqwlgts5ds_vvvYTpfSCb2Q0/s1600/landon.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjjYA2zsOBV6DDEWkx_FqlNjODHuggAnzUIr45dxkgC-fMpLunhdvmWa-Da_jTiGooUM-IY8yPMfuc0txd4EmnP5AzzQLu-xEykqYM_j4FsfxY1Nt5LjVPgqwlgts5ds_vvvYTpfSCb2Q0/s1600/landon.png" height="296" width="400" /></a></div><iframe src="//www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.unknownsoldiersblog.com%2F2014%2F09%2Flandons-mom-and-dad.html&width=450&layout=standard&action=recommend&show_faces=false&share=false&height=35" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" style="border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:35px;" allowTransparency="true"></iframe><i>Tom Sileo is a nationally syndicated columnist and co-author of <a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">BROTHERS FOREVER</a>: The Enduring Bond Between a Marine and a Navy SEAL that Transcended Their Ultimate Sacrifice. Written with Col. Tom Manion (Ret.) and published by Da Capo Press, BROTHERS FOREVER is <a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">available now</a>. To find out more about Tom Sileo, or to read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the <a href="http://www.creators.com/">Creators website</a>.</i>Tom Sileohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09597602184333457928noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1341302372172784674.post-25402015404623639772014-09-05T10:00:00.000-04:002014-09-05T10:00:00.620-04:00The Porch Light<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEgNBaf5aXUdTWKdO2uNYqaNBXU4KAJQ-490x4TdA_QZQY7igzfrXf99kfBvKKWzsbXka6uVzr2FI4LqxexuFFyCwhPr77FxZeM67nT6GdvmVmVu-u-FLSX7GxRbhr-uU9ROmFxSB2aI0/s1600/baysore.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiEgNBaf5aXUdTWKdO2uNYqaNBXU4KAJQ-490x4TdA_QZQY7igzfrXf99kfBvKKWzsbXka6uVzr2FI4LqxexuFFyCwhPr77FxZeM67nT6GdvmVmVu-u-FLSX7GxRbhr-uU9ROmFxSB2aI0/s1600/baysore.jpg" height="379" width="350" /></a></div><i>Image courtesy: U.S. Army</i><br />
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When 6-year-old Darren Baysore looks up into the night sky, he thinks of his dad.<br />
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"They were all about the stars and 'I love you to the moon and back,'" said Darren's mom, Jamie Baysore, wife of U.S. Army <b>Staff Sgt. Thomas Baysore Jr</b>.<br />
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Less than a year ago, Darren's father made the ultimate sacrifice while serving in Afghanistan. While the loss of a loved one is crushing for any military family member, the impact on a child is immeasurable.<br />
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"At first he was OK because he didn't really understand," said Jamie, while adding that war's painful reality is starting to set in.<br />
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Jamie, 31, met Thomas in 2006 through MySpace.<br />
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"He drove two hours to take me on our first date," she said with a chuckle. "His eyes were gorgeous."<br />
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In October 2007, Jamie exchanged vows with a soldier who embodied the very best qualities of a good husband.<br />
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"He was driven," she said. "He had everything together and he was all about family values."<br />
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Stationed on the Kentucky-Tennessee border at Fort Campbell, Staff Sgt. Baysore had already completed respective deployments to Afghanistan and Iraq before being called upon to serve a third combat tour. Under the evening sky, Thomas said goodbye to his wife and son just as the summer of 2013 began.<br />
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Not long after arriving in Afghanistan, the soldier told his wife that his unit faced serious challenges on a still-volatile battlefield.<br />
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"He said this deployment was worse than the one he went on after 9/11," Jamie recounted.<br />
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On Aug. 1, 2013, Thomas received word that several Afghan civilians had been injured in an improvised explosive device attack. The soldier recounted the day's events in his journal, which Jamie subsequently released to the media. <a href="http://www.standard-journal.com/">The Standard-Journal</a> in Thomas' hometown of Milton, Pa., reprinted the entry.<br />
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"The gentleman informs me that there is only one person injured, a girl about 9 years old," Staff Sgt. Baysore wrote. "She is laying in the back of one the vehicles. So, again I push the locals away for my own security and start to look at the girl.<br />
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"I saw that her face is somewhat messed up, a lot of blood, but no missing facial features (which is good)," he continued. "However, her right eye looks bad, damaged in some way. I asked if I can look her over being that she is a female and a little girl."<br />
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After receiving permission, Thomas began looking for injuries.<br />
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"I start checking the parts I can see, since they have her covered by some blankets," the soldier wrote. "Her legs were bloodied but I don't see anything major yet. I asked the local what other injuries she has. He told me her arm is gone. I said what do you mean 'gone.' I asked if it was recent or something that happened a while ago. He told me it was the IED. That's when they moved the blanket. Her right hand and part of her arm was gone."<br />
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Thomas sprung to action, finding more wounds to her thigh and working with medics to tie tourniquets. He asked his superiors to authorize a medevac flight for the girl, and agonized as the request went up the chain of command.<br />
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"I am literally staring this girl in the one eye that still is working, waiting for her to die in my arms," he wrote.<br />
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The helicopter arrived, and the little girl survived. Thomas saved her life.<br />
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"I'm glad you are my friend and I'm glad you were strong enough to fight for your life," Thomas wrote to the girl in his journal.<br />
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On Sept. 26, 2013, Staff Sgt. Thomas Baysore Jr., 31, was killed in Afghanistan's Paktya Province by "an enemy combatant wearing an Afghan National Army uniform," according to a news release.<br />
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"I remember falling in front of the door and my son asking what was wrong," Jamie said.<br />
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As Darren marks one year since the passing of his dad, an American hero who saved the life of an Afghan child, he has one deeply moving request.<br />
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"On (September) 26 we're asking everyone at Fort Campbell and everywhere else to leave a porch light on," Jamie Baysore said. "(Darren said) if you leave your light on, that dad can see that he's sending his love."<br />
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August 20 marked one year since Michelle Bannar lost the love of her life.<br />
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"He was many different people to me," Michelle said about her late husband, U.S. Army <b>Master Sgt. George Bannar</b>. "Not only the love of my life, but my best friend, adviser, teacher and hero."<br />
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For 365 days, Michelle has been reading journals that her husband kept during his fifth and final deployment to Afghanistan.<br />
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"It was incredible to read his journals ... and to feel the strength that he had and the ability to drive forward 100 percent," the fallen soldier's wife said.<br />
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After meeting in North Carolina in 2002, Master Sgt. Bannar and his future wife quickly became the closest of friends. They started dating about five years later.<br />
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"In an interview one time, (a journalist) asked me to sum up George in one word," Michelle told me. "And I thought, how the heck could I do that?"<br />
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"He's such a unique, rare bird," Michelle said with a chuckle.<br />
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Before the couple got married in 2009, George had already served in Afghanistan four times. The Green Beret's favorite assignment, however, was as an instructor in Yuma, Arizona, where the couple lived until 2012.<br />
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"He had the time of his life," Michelle said. "Jumping with students — teaching and developing them to save their own lives while falling out of an airplane — it was something he truly had a passion for."<br />
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"It was hard for him to come back, take over another team, and start over again," the Green Beret's wife said. "Of course, he never complained."<br />
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In June 2013, George was allowed to leave the battlefield to help care for his ailing stepmother in Orange County, Virginia, where he spent part of his childhood.<br />
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"She ended up passing away just the day after George returned to Afghanistan," Michelle said.<br />
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Upon returning, George insisted on putting the well-being of his combat team ahead of his own grief.<br />
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During long, late-night phone conversations after he returned to war, George and Michelle talked about life at home instead of the daily struggles of war.<br />
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"He was so humble, didn't brag at all, and was somebody that really had that balance of work-life living," Michelle explained. "Work was left at the door, and we weren't going to bring it into our world."<br />
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Michelle will never forget the tragic moment that the war in Afghanistan entered her home.<br />
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"That day ... it makes me nauseous to think about," she said. "It was hard for me to answer the door."<br />
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Michelle subsequently learned that her 37-year-old husband, who was fearlessly leading a foot patrol, was killed in action on Aug. 20, 2013, in Afghanistan's Wardak Province.<br />
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"George was at the very front of his team and unfortunately, a sniper on the hillside, some terrible man — I don't even call him a man — happened to get that one shot that killed George," the Gold Star wife said.<br />
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As Michelle, 42, starts a painful second year without Master Sgt. George Bannar, it's the kindness of strangers — a compassionate grocery store clerk and a stranger who wrote her a moving letter were two examples she cited — that keeps her going.<br />
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"It's made every difference in the world," Michelle said. "I wouldn't know where I'd be now if it wasn't for those sending love, strength, and kindness."<br />
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Many different people have lost loved ones during the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq, and every day, I am amazed by people like Michelle Bannar, who use their loss as a springboard to help others.<br />
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"I'm driven to continuously support and do everything I can for those who are deployed and also here at home sacrificing," she said.<br />
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<i><b>Note:</b> This column was edited on Aug. 25, 2014.</i>Tom Sileohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09597602184333457928noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1341302372172784674.post-28879412599588483222014-08-01T09:30:00.000-04:002014-08-01T09:30:01.022-04:00Their Names<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRsZmzSXYP2EH-CYbMS_W57SYcaFAViPW48tRwlrAuWxYl74ezxzDIWt_lXwJGQadHodL5Vww5ZvfQY-hKKPZ4yntsJSKPKUM_aj66gIdtEoAewtUoQzfYhadU2DRl_5pZb6hBUfVAOAo/s1600/pitts.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgRsZmzSXYP2EH-CYbMS_W57SYcaFAViPW48tRwlrAuWxYl74ezxzDIWt_lXwJGQadHodL5Vww5ZvfQY-hKKPZ4yntsJSKPKUM_aj66gIdtEoAewtUoQzfYhadU2DRl_5pZb6hBUfVAOAo/s1600/pitts.jpg" height="266" width="400" /></a></div><i>Images courtesy: U.S. Army</i><br />
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When I asked the nation's newest Medal of Honor recipient why he enlisted less than two years after 9/11, his answer was unequivocal.<br />
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"I had always wanted to serve from the time I was very young," former U.S. Army <b>Staff Sgt. Ryan Pitts</b> said.<br />
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As a 17-year-old high school student in Nashua, New Hampshire, the future war hero volunteered for the Army as one conflict raged in Afghanistan and another was about to erupt in Iraq.<br />
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"It had drifted from my mind somewhat in high school as I just focused on being a teenage boy," Pitts admitted. "But as my senior year drew to a close and I started thinking about what I wanted to do with my future ... I just thought what better way to spend my time than serving my country."<br />
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As Pitts spoke during a July 22 media roundtable, I tried to imagine the whirlwind that this 28-year-old veteran was experiencing. Less than 24 hours earlier, the president had placed the Medal of Honor around his neck at the White House. By coincidence, July 21 also marked the second wedding anniversary for Ryan and his wife, Amy.<br />
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"I'm taking it one day at a time," Pitts said.<br />
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Pitts simultaneously made clear that to him, the ceremonies and pageantry associated with the nation's highest military award were not about celebrating his achievements.<br />
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"It's been great this week — at this event — to have all the Gold Star families come in," he said.<br />
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"To have the president recognize them, and to be able to talk to all of them, and for them to be able to talk to the people who knew their soldiers. That's really the story of this week."<br />
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Nine U.S. paratroopers were killed in the July 13, 2008, Battle of Wanat, which Staff Sgt. Pitts survived. He knew the fallen soldiers, served alongside them, and still mourns them.<br />
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"I think about it every day," the Afghanistan war veteran said.<br />
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At every turn during the 45-minute discussion, Pitts shifted attention back to his fallen brothers.<br />
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"I was there, and I saw some of these guys do what they did, and it's still unbelievable to me," the Medal of Honor recipient said. "It's been uncomfortable being highlighted and recognized."<br />
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As President Obama explained at the previous day's White House ceremony, the courage displayed by Pitts and his teammates — while taking fire from 200 insurgents — is astounding.<br />
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"The enemy was so close, Ryan could hear their voices," the president said. "He whispered into the radio (that) he was the only one left and was running out of ammo. 'I was going to die,' he remembers, 'and made my peace with it.'<br />
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"And then he prepared to make a last stand," President Obama continued. "Bleeding and barely conscious, Ryan threw his last grenades. He grabbed a grenade launcher and fired nearly straight up, so the grenade came back down on the enemy just yards away. One insurgent was now right on top of the post, shooting down until another team of Americans showed up and drove him back. As one his teammates said, had it not been for Ryan Pitts, that post 'almost certainly would have been overrun.'"<br />
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Pitts, who credited the preparation of his fellow paratroopers for saving lives, also acknowledged that despite his reluctance in accepting an award, he has a unique opportunity to speak on behalf of his fallen Army brothers.<br />
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"I absolutely feel a responsibility," he said. "First, to the guys ... the guys who didn't come home ... the guys who can't tell their story."<br />
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While his wife, young son and post-military career are huge priorities, Pitts is equally committed to saluting this generation of heroes.<br />
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"This is a brotherhood that we've all been a part of," he said. "We think it's incredibly important to remember the guys who didn't make it home, and we're using this time to say their names as much as we can."<br />
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Their names are <b>1st Lt. Jonathan Brostrom, Sgt. Israel Garcia, Cpl. Jonathan Ayers, Cpl. Jason Bogar, Cpl. Jason Hovater, Cpl. Matthew Phillips, Cpl. Pruitt Rainey, Cpl. Gunnar Zwilling</b> and <b>Spc. Sergio Abad</b>.<br />
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The name of another American hero, who is dedicating his Medal of Honor to sharing their stories of sacrifice, is Staff Sgt. Ryan Pitts.<br />
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Robert and Linda Ollis were on an August 2013 trip to London when they were awoken by a call from back home. Their oldest daughter, Kimberly, needed to relay a neighbor's troubling message.<br />
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"There were two soldiers at our door," Linda said. "They were looking for us."<br />
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Despite being thousands of miles from their Staten Island home and Afghanistan, where their only son was serving, the parents could sense that the soldiers carried the worst possible news.<br />
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"In our hearts, we really knew," the mother told me.<br />
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<b>Staff Sgt. Michael Ollis</b> was meant to be a soldier. Both his grandfathers were World War II veterans who survived the Battle of the Bulge. His dad fought in Vietnam.<br />
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"He was very, very proud of having two grandfathers who served and a father who served," <b>Robert</b> said. "He always made me feel special (for serving) in Vietnam."<br />
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"There was absolutely no doubt that he was going into the Army," Michael's father said. "You would have one hell of an argument if you tried to stop him, which we never did. We always supported him."<br />
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After his parents allowed him to enlist at age 17, Michael would eventually serve combat deployments in both Afghanistan and Iraq. Channeling his own experiences in Vietnam, Robert was amazed by how well his son handled his harrowing deployments to America's post-9/11 battlefields.<br />
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"It was surreal," Linda said. "It just didn't seem possible."<br />
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Robert said his son and a wounded Polish soldier were securing the zone around a massive truck bomb blast on Aug. 28, 2013, when an insurgent ambushed them in Afghanistan's Ghazni Province.<br />
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"Michael stepped in front of (the Polish lieutenant), took out the insurgent, and apparently must have been reaching down to disarm him also," Robert explained.<br />
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The enemy fighter ignited his vest. Michael's dad said the ensuing explosion caused catastrophic injuries that eventually took his 24-year-old son's life.<br />
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"The Polish lieutenant was on the gurney next to him," Robert said. "He said (the doctors) did everything they could."<br />
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Today, the Polish soldier and his grateful nation are doing everything they can to thank Staff Sgt. Michael Ollis for his final act of courage. The Polish government has already bestowed its Armed Forces Gold Medal upon the fallen American soldier.<br />
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"He made a point to tell people that Michael had saved his life," Linda said of the Polish lieutenant. "As a result of that, Michael has really been honored by the Polish people."<br />
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The fallen hero's parents, who posthumously accepted Michael's Silver Star medal from the U.S. Army this past October, said the American people have also done an incredible job of saluting their son.<br />
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"We've received so many cards from people throughout the country, and gifts," Michael's mom said. "Our neighbors have been unbelievable."<br />
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One gesture stands out. When Linda and Robert returned from receiving their son's flag-draped casket, they noticed 24 American flags mounted on a fence near railroad tracks.<br />
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"One for each year of Michael's life," Linda said.<br />
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This August, Michael's parents will travel to Poland, where their son will be saluted on the country's Armed Forces Day. Upon returning to the United States for the anniversary of Michael's passing, they plan to spend a quiet day in Staten Island with their surviving children.<br />
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"Being together as a family is the best way to honor him," Michael's dad said.<br />
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On Aug. 28, let's honor Staff Sgt. Michael Ollis and his family by placing 24 American flags in front of our homes. The flags pay tribute to the 24 years that an American hero lived, and also to the hours of each day, which we are privileged to spend in freedom.<br />
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It took a long time for Margy Agar to say the word "suicide" after her daughter, U.S. Army <b>Sgt. Kimberly Agar</b>, took her own life. Today, spreading awareness is her greatest passion.<br />
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"My number one mission is for people to learn that (people) don't commit suicide," Margy told me. "They die from it."<br />
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While the grieving Texas mother still struggles with unanswered questions about how her "energetic" and "vivacious" daughter's life descended into hopelessness and tragedy, Margy traces Kimberly's death to Oct. 7, 2007: the day she was injured by an improvised explosive device in Iraq.<br />
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Sergeant Agar didn't tell her mom she had been hurt until she returned from the battlefield in December 2008. It would take another two years for Kimberly to reveal specific details about the attack.<br />
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"She called me from Germany and told me about the IED," Margy said. "I knew she was keeping it hidden."<br />
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Kimberly was never known for hiding her emotions while growing up in the Dallas-Fort Worth suburbs. In fact, her zest for life was almost always on display at frequent singing performances and beauty pageants.<br />
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"She started singing in her room when she was about 3," Kimberly's mother said. "She sang at nursing homes and assisted living facilities ... just celebrating her God-given talent with people who needed music in their lives."<br />
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There was one song Kimberly enjoyed singing most.<br />
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"She was very patriotic," Margy said. "Her favorite song was the National Anthem."<br />
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As she sang all around the Lone Star State, including at Texas Rangers games, Kimberly clung to three goals she had set for herself during childhood.<br />
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"To sing, to see the world and to serve," her mom said.<br />
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"It came out of left field for me ... she never talked about it, ever," said Margy, who had watched her oldest son join the military a few months earlier. "I was devastated, basically, but at the same time, proud."<br />
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Without much time to adjust, Margy's daughter was suddenly part of the 2007 U.S. troop surge in Iraq.<br />
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"They were there for 15 months and they were constantly (dealing with) IED after IED and ambush after ambush," Kimberly's mother said.<br />
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Years later, Margy would learn that Kimberly — under the enormous stress of combat — had been cutting herself in Iraq. But when Kimberly came home from the deployment, Margy saw no significant warning signs of depression beyond some rowdy, alcohol-fueled behavior.<br />
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"I didn't see it at all as a way of coping," the soldier's mother said. "It surely could have been, but I also knew her. She was a very social person."<br />
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Kimberly was stationed in Germany as part of the U.S. Army Europe Band and Chorus on July 4, 2011. That's when Margy realized something was wrong.<br />
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"After the 4th it was like night and day," she said.<br />
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Two months and two days later, Margy said that her daughter — under the influence of alcohol and pills — slashed her wrists. During her 11-day hospital stay, Kimberly displayed more erratic behavior when she yelled at her mom during one of their last phone conversations.<br />
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"She never yelled at me," Margy said about Kimberly's usual demeanor.<br />
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Kimberly, 25, was scheduled to return from Germany that Christmas. Margy was busy planning a welcome home party when her phone rang on Oct. 3, 2011. Two soldiers were waiting at her door.<br />
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Margy, too panicked to drive, was taken home by police to receive the dreadful news of Kimberly's death.<br />
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"They told me," Margy said. "I screamed, collapsed and pounded the wall."<br />
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Margy's confusion, anger, and frustration were immediately channeled into sharing Kimberly's story, both inside and outside the military community.<br />
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"You die of sadness; you die from depression," she said. "That's what I'm trying to get out there."<br />
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Margy believes the traumatic brain injury Kimberly suffered during the explosion in Iraq permanently changed her daughter.<br />
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"TBI is not a mental illness," Kimberly's mom said. "It's a physical wound."<br />
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Despite the way Sgt. Kimberly Agar's life ended, her mother will always be proud of her. After all, she had accomplished her three goals: singing, seeing the world and serving others.<br />
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"I'm constantly amazed by her courage," Margy Agar said.<br />
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When future U.S. Army <b>Cpl. Ben Kopp</b> was just 8 years old, his heart was set on following in his great-grandfather's footsteps.<br />
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"He would tell people he was going to grow up and go into the Army," Cpl. Kopp's mother, Jill Stephenson, told me.<br />
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It took Ben's great-grandpa — a World War II veteran — to help the young boy understand the true meaning of service.<br />
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"You don't join the Army because someone else did it," said Ben's hero and role model, <b>Leroy Rogers</b>. "You do it because it's something you want to do."<br />
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Ben was devastated when his great-grandfather died in April 2001. Five months later, when flames rose from the World Trade Center, Pentagon, and a rural Pennsylvania field, the Minnesota teenager's grief turned to rage.<br />
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"He considered the terrorist attack on America — killing innocent people — a mockery of his great grandfather's service to our country," Ben's mom said. "He made a pledge to become an Army Ranger."<br />
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Jill's son kept his word. By 2007, he was a Ranger serving in Iraq.<br />
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"When 9/11 happened, there was no doubt in my mind that Ben would fulfill that manifest destiny, if you will," she said.<br />
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After two deployments during one of the Iraq war's most violent chapters, the young Ranger's passion for his country was even stronger.<br />
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"What he saw over there ... it made him appreciate what it was to be an American," Jill said.<br />
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Ben left for Afghanistan in May 2009. While the Rosemount, Minnesota, native had been known for his tenacity since childhood, embarking on his third combat deployment at age 21 was a burden that very few young Americans are asked to shoulder.<br />
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Indeed, when the soldier and his mom spoke that July, he confirmed that Afghanistan's Helmand province was as close as it came to hell on earth.<br />
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"He said it was as bad as (fellow Rangers) had warned him about," Jill said.<br />
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On July 10, 2009, Jill received a shocking phone call. Ben had been wounded in Afghanistan, undergone surgery and hadn't regained consciousness.<br />
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"The days that went by — the next three days before I went to Walter Reed — were probably the most difficult days of my life," Ben's mom said. "I didn't know the true condition of things."<br />
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Ben, who was shot while helping save the lives of six fellow Rangers pinned down by a Taliban sniper, arrived at Walter Reed on July 14. The next morning, doctors told Jill that her son might be brain dead.<br />
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"There was a concern because he had a cardiac arrest when he was recovering from his surgery," Jill explained. "They revived him, but he never woke up."<br />
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On July 18, 2009, every military mom's worst nightmare became Jill's reality. A test confirmed that no blood was flowing to her son's brain. At the same time, doctors were busy trying to preserve the dying hero's organs, which Ben had designated for donation if he was ever killed in action.<br />
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"There was some doubt — actually considerable doubt — about whether they could use his heart," Ben's mother said. "But we have to keep in mind that he was a 21-year-old Army Ranger. He was in really great physical condition."<br />
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As the tragic events unfolded at Walter Reed, Jill learned that one of her cousin's friends was in need of a heart transplant. In what can only be described as a miracle, Ben's heart was subsequently identified as a perfect match.<br />
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"I had this incredible joy and this incredible sorrow at the same point," Jill said. "It was so special to know that his heart would save someone else's life.<br />
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Corporal Ben Kopp is buried at Arlington National Cemetery. His heart is inside Judy Meikle, 62, who lives in Chicago.<br />
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</tbody></table>"She will celebrate five years with Ben's heart (this July)," Jill said. "He also saved three other lives with his kidneys and his liver."<br />
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Five years after a selfless warrior's final acts of courage, Ben's heart still beats.<br />
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"He saved so many lives," his mother said.<br />
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On April 4, U.S. Marine <b>Cpl. Brandon Garabrant</b> updated his Facebook page as the 2nd Combat Engineer Battalion left North Carolina's Camp Lejeune for Afghanistan.<br />
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"Going to do what we do best. Fighting for our country, (our) brothers to the left and right, our friends and families back home," the Marine wrote. "So that you can have the right for freedom and to live the American dream without fear of anything."<br />
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Corporal Garabrant was proud to be a Marine. Less than a year before going to war, the New Hampshire native <a href="http://www.foxnews.com/us/2013/06/07/new-hampshire-high-school-wont-allow-marine-to-wear-uniform-to-graduation/">made headlines</a> when he told his Peterborough high school that he would wear his military uniform to graduation. Brandon eventually agreed to wear the standard cap and gown after the school denied his request, but even so, the young Marine's point had been made.<br />
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"The United States Marine Corps is proud to have him amongst our ranks, but support the school's decision to have (then-) Pfc. Garabrant walk across the stage in a cap and gown, as this is recognition of his accomplishments at ConVal (Regional High School) and the final chapter of his high school career," a June 2013 statement said.<br />
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Ten months later, in the same April 4 Facebook post, Brandon was anxious to fulfill his duty as a Marine, even if it meant spending many months away from home.<br />
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"This is what I signed up for," he wrote. "Here comes a long journey into the unknown."<br />
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Twelve days later, Brandon posted an update from Afghanistan. Despite enduring a "pretty bad sinus headache," he ended his post with a smiley face.<br />
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"I'm doing well and still going strong," he wrote.<br />
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After another 12 days in Afghanistan's Helmand Province, where so many have made the ultimate sacrifice since 9/11 (when Brandon was in elementary school), the Marine's spirits seemed high.<br />
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"Thank you all for your support and helping me out with this deployment!" he wrote after asking friends if they could send some powdered coffee, Slim Jims and other care package items. "It means a lot and I thank you very much!"<br />
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On June 7, Brandon posted from Afghanistan's Camp Leatherneck, where temperatures had reached 95 degrees. Five days later, highs were well above 100 degrees.<br />
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"The breeze makes it hotter," he wrote while explaining brutal conditions inside the war zone. "As if your face was in front of the oven."<br />
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Many Americans take air conditioning for granted, but for Brandon and his fellow Marines, it was a luxury.<br />
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"Thank God for A/C in our rooms," he also wrote on June 12.<br />
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Eight days later, on June 20, Cpl. Brandon Garabrant, 19, was conducting combat operations in Helmand Province when he was killed alongside two fellow Marines, according to the Pentagon. <b>Staff Sgt. David Stewart</b>, 34, was from Stafford County, Va. <b>Lance Cpl. Adam Wolff</b>, 25, hailed from Ottumwa, Iowa.<br />
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In New Hampshire, where Brandon grew to pursue his dream of Marine Corps service, reaction to the tragic news came swiftly and from the very top.<br />
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"As a volunteer firefighter and dedicated Marine, (then-) Lance Cpl. Garabrant was committed to serving his fellow citizens, and he was tragically taken from us far too soon," New Hampshire Gov. Maggie Hassan said in a statement <a href="http://www.governor.nh.gov/media/news/2014/pr-2014-06-20-garabrant.htm">posted on her website</a>. "It is our responsibility as Granite Staters and Americans to come together to support his family and his community."<br />
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I will be reaching out to this fallen hero's family at an appropriate time to hopefully learn more about Brandon's extraordinary life. Now is a time for grief, and as the governor expressed, unity and support.<br />
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How is our nation so blessed with young warriors like Cpl. Garabrant and the two Marines who made the ultimate sacrifice alongside him? Are we doing enough to make sure the incredible stories of these heroes live on in the hearts of our children and grandchildren?<br />
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When I look at my young daughter, I am enormously grateful to the troops, veterans and military families who've given her the privilege of growing up in a land of freedom and opportunity. At the same time, my heart aches for those enduring war's incalculable sacrifices.<br />
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"May God be with us on this journey," Cpl. Brandon Garabrant wrote on April 4.<br />
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<iframe src="//www.facebook.com/plugins/like.php?href=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.unknownsoldiersblog.com%2F2014%2F06%2Fthis-journey.html&width=450&layout=standard&action=recommend&show_faces=false&share=false&height=35" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" style="border:none; overflow:hidden; width:450px; height:35px;" allowTransparency="true"></iframe><i>Tom Sileo is a nationally syndicated columnist and co-author of <a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">BROTHERS FOREVER</a>: The Enduring Bond Between a Marine and a Navy SEAL that Transcended Their Ultimate Sacrifice. Written with Col. Tom Manion (Ret.) and published by Da Capo Press, BROTHERS FOREVER is <a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">available now</a>. To find out more about Tom Sileo, or to read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the <a href="http://www.creators.com/">Creators website</a>.</i>Tom Sileohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09597602184333457928noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1341302372172784674.post-79146925971370552822014-06-13T09:30:00.000-04:002014-06-13T09:30:00.576-04:00The Longest Year<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijyoJV7i8eHQyD9jye5_0eCMNSdJq80iZZRAnVogb2mJs871TkjK6qDcxeVurC47IH1e7hZzlNEnpCxkVZRsdu7wrZsvBHPNwztHz5XQpPJdsKIV87FqcBRW67nAeT4nbdr68GISqjGWo/s1600/robby+unit+pitice+-+Copy.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijyoJV7i8eHQyD9jye5_0eCMNSdJq80iZZRAnVogb2mJs871TkjK6qDcxeVurC47IH1e7hZzlNEnpCxkVZRsdu7wrZsvBHPNwztHz5XQpPJdsKIV87FqcBRW67nAeT4nbdr68GISqjGWo/s1600/robby+unit+pitice+-+Copy.jpg" height="300" width="400" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><i>Images courtesy: Ellis family</i></div><br />
In November 2012, Joelle Ellis watched her son deploy to Afghanistan before he was old enough to buy a beer.<br />
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"You have to remember that a lot of these young men and women serving were in elementary school on 9/11," the military mom said. "(U.S. troops) have a strong patriotic heart to defend our country, and that's definitely what we instilled in our children."<br />
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"He had a strong faith," Robby's mother said. "He had a strong sense of justice."<br />
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"He just went from our little boy to a man," Joelle said. "He was so mature."<br />
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Buoyed by his unshakeable belief in God and country, Spc. Ellis deployed to Afghanistan while determined to make a difference. As politicians at home assured Americans that the conflict was "winding down," Robby celebrated his 21st birthday in a war zone that — to this day — is still difficult and dangerous.<br />
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"His lieutenant himself said they could count on (Robby) to lighten the load a little bit for them," the soldier's mother said. "He had a love and a care for his brothers in arms."<br />
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Whenever there was a tough job or task, Robby would immediately raise his hand.<br />
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On June 17, 2013, Robby and Joelle were chatting on Facebook when the deployed soldier assured his mom that staying in close contact was not distracting him from the mission at hand.<br />
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"That's OK, mom, that's OK," Robby wrote.<br />
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Even after a nice Facebook conversation with her son, who was serving thousands of miles away from Washington state, Joelle felt strange the next morning.<br />
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"All that day, I just didn't feel right," she said. "I guess that's maybe the mother's instinct ... I don't know."<br />
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While at work, Joelle got an earth-shattering call from her husband.<br />
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"I'm about 20 minutes away from my home when I get the phone call from John saying that Robby's gone," the grieving mother recounted.<br />
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According to the Department of Defense, Spc. Robby Ellis, 21, was killed at Bagram Airfield in Afghanistan on June 18, 2013, alongside <b>Sgt. Justin Johnson</b>, 25, <b>Spc. Ember Alt</b>, 21, and <b>Sgt. William Moody</b>, 30, with whom Robby was particularly close.<br />
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Joelle, who said an enemy rocket attack took Robby's life, was emotional when we spoke less than a year after she lost her oldest of two sons.<br />
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"We've just kind of been existing since," she said. "Trying to find the new normal, trying to lighten the load for his younger brother, and trying to fill a void."<br />
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Joelle's paramount concern is for her surviving son, Jimmy, 18.<br />
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"His younger brother is going to live the rest of his life without his brother," she said through tears.<br />
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</div>After thanking her family's casualty assistance officer and the surrounding community for their support in the days and weeks after Robby's death, the Gold Star mother reflected on what the worst year of her life had taught her.<br />
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"Now that I've got a son that is now passed away because of this war, now I'm thinking outside of that bubble more," Joelle said. "It's a scary thought that we have more people who are dying because of this."<br />
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While the rest of America enjoyed this year's Super Bowl, the fallen soldier's parents were thinking of Robby, who didn't get to see his beloved Seattle Seahawks win their first championship.<br />
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"That was the most heartbreaking Super Bowl I've ever been through," Joelle said.<br />
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As Joelle Ellis prepared to mark one year since Spc. Robby Ellis' passing, she was comforted by the traits of selflessness, heroism and faith that will be forever be associated with her son's name.<br />
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"It wasn't just us who raised him," she said. "It was God."<br />
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I could see fire in the eyes of retired U.S. Marine <b>Gen. John Allen</b> shortly after someone at a recent Washington forum told the former commander of U.S. forces in Afghanistan that al-Qaida has "demonstrated a great deal of valor" since 9/11.<br />
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"I don't see any valor in al-Qaida," Gen. Allen said in response to the audience member. "My first real experience with the horrific dimension of al-Qaida was the day they cut the heads off of four children going to school because they were the children of a sheikh.<br />
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"I see no valor in that," Allen, who also commanded U.S. Marines in Iraq's most violent province, continued. "And I eventually deserve the right to define valor the way I want to define it, and not how other people would like to create a relativistic view of valor."<br />
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Allen has led thousands of brave men and women into battle, and clearly agonizes for every brave American killed or wounded in Afghanistan and Iraq. Nevertheless, he was calm and respectful while answering the questioner, who also told the accomplished military leader that "you have to admire the way [al-Qaida] fought your people."<br />
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After Allen named several terrorist organizations that he and forces under his command fought on foreign soil, he reminded the audience member that each group has "killed far more civilians in Afghanistan than they ever killed of Afghan National Security forces or my own forces."<br />
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"So I see no valor in that," the general reiterated.<br />
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As I looked into the general's eyes, I thought of a <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2014/02/the-tattoo.html">harrowing story</a> relayed to me by the parents of U.S. Army <b>Sgt. Steven DeLuzio</b>, who was killed in Afghanistan on Aug. 22, 2010 at age 25. Before he left for his final deployment, Sgt. DeLuzio got a tattoo on his arm that bore the mysterious image of an Iraqi woman's shrouded face.<br />
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"The lady saved his life," Steven's dad, Mark DeLuzio, told me.<br />
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As Steven patrolled the treacherous city of Ramadi in 2006, the Iraqi woman told American forces about a bomb buried on a stretch of road they would soon encounter. Without the civilian's warning, Steven's Humvee would almost certainly have struck the enemy improvised explosive device.<br />
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A few days later, Steven and his unit returned to thank the Iraqi woman for her courageous act.<br />
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"Steven found the woman, her husband, and their kids all beheaded," Mark said.<br />
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That is one example of terrorist barbarism that I heard about while writing this syndicated column. Allen, who spent 12 years battling al-Qaida and the Taliban, witnessed terrible atrocities by the enemy on a daily basis.<br />
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The May 22 <a href="http://www.aei.org/">American Enterprise Institute</a> event was focused on the meaning of Memorial Day and "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>," which I coauthored with retired Marine <b>Col. Tom Manion</b>. General Allen wrote a moving Foreword to our book, and offered another stirring, emotional reflection on the heroism of our military in person.<br />
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"At night in Afghanistan when I commanded there, I always wrote the letters home to the families of our dead at night," he said. "And I'd always take the time to go through the kid's record book to see when they were born.<br />
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"By the time I commanded the war in Afghanistan between 2011 and 2013, many of these kids were 9 or 10 years old when the war broke out," Allen continued. "And they still came ... nothing stopped them. They still came, and they still enlisted, and they still knew they were going to war, and they still came over. And they still fought for us, and they died for us."<br />
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Memorial Day weekend is over. Soon, the war in Afghanistan — according to politicians overseeing the U.S.-led effort — will be over, too.<br />
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As a significant chapter of American history comes to close, there are two sentiments that I hope will never cease. First: gratitude to the valiant men and women to serve our country in uniform, and second: disdain for the terrorists who started this war.<br />
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"To get to your point about whether we can coexist with al-Qaida: I hope not," Gen. John Allen said to his questioner. "I hope that al-Qaida has to wonder every night whether they'll wake up the next morning alive."<br />
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On the night of May 14, 2013, Samantha Daehling awoke to startling words from a friend who was staying at her house in Westford, Massachusetts.<br />
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"There are uniforms at the door," Samantha's friend said. "Go get the door."<br />
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When Samantha cracked the door open and peered outside, her heart sank.<br />
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"As soon as I saw the National Guard standing there, I knew right away," Samantha, 23, said.<br />
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On the fourteenth day of the previous June, Samantha had married U.S. Army <b>Spc. Mitchell Daehling</b>. It was the happiest day of her young life.<br />
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"I looked up and saw Mitch standing there," Samantha said. "Mitch laughed and said I'd never looked prettier."<br />
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The couple originally met in Nashua, New Hampshire, while Mitch was attending Daniel Webster College. Even though neither forgot meeting the other, Mitch and Samantha didn't see each other again until two years later.<br />
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The couple started dating on Dec. 14, 2008. From the beginning, Samantha loved her future husband's defining traits.<br />
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"Mitch was very bold, competitive and strong-willed," she said.<br />
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Mitch had wanted to join the military from a young age, but promised family members that he would get his college degree first. After the death of his grandfather, who had lost both his legs while serving overseas before Mitch was born, he decided to follow his selfless example.<br />
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"After what happened with Grandpa Ken, he knew he had to join the military," Samantha said. "He felt like he just had to do it."<br />
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Mitch's next decision would initially break Samantha's heart.<br />
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"Mitch said he didn't want to see me anymore," she said. "I was shocked by it."<br />
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The future soldier loved his girlfriend so much that he didn't want her to endure the rigors of military life.<br />
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"He told me later that was why he broke up with me ... because he didn't want me to go through what his grandmother did," Samantha explained. "If he came back without legs, or not at all, he didn't want me to go through it."<br />
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Just before Mitch started basic training, he visited Samantha at her parents' house.<br />
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"Are you sure you want to do this?" he said.<br />
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"Let's do this," Samantha responded.<br />
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Before Mitch went to war, he had an unimaginably painful conversation about Afghanistan with his worried bride.<br />
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"I need to be the first man to jump in ... the first man to help," the soldier told his wife. "And I don't think I'm coming back."<br />
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During a Skype conversation on May 12, 2013, Mitch told Samantha that he'd been given an even bigger role on his combat team.<br />
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"As soon as he got promoted to team leader, I knew he wasn't coming back," she said.<br />
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"It didn't feel real," she emotionally recounted. "I kept waiting to wake up from a nightmare."<br />
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According to the Pentagon, Spc. Mitchell Daehling, 24, was killed in a May 14, 2013 improvised explosive device attack that also killed <b>Sgt. 1st Class Jeffrey Baker</b>, 29, <b>Spc. William Gilbert</b>, 24, and <b>Pfc. Cody Towse</b>, 21.<br />
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Less than a month after the Boston Marathon bombings, the same spirit of togetherness that was famously displayed by New Englanders quickly surrounded Samantha and her loved ones.<br />
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"My front yard (was) filled with people," she recalled. "Friends drove from all over ... cards (were) all over."<br />
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For many of us, the fourteenth of each month is just another date on the calendar. For Samantha Daehling, it is a reminder of the days she met, got engaged and married the man she loves.<br />
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"The fourteenth is not a day for me to be lying in bed crying," she said. "The fourteenth — and every day of the year — is a day for me to live for him."<br />
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The following scene is an excerpt from "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/"><b>Brothers Forever:</b> The Enduring Bond between a Marine and a Navy SEAL that Transcended their Ultimate Sacrifice</a>," which I co-authored with retired U.S. Marine <b>Col. Tom Manion</b>, who lost his only son in Iraq.<br />
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In the scene, the oldest niece of <b>1st Lt. Travis Manion</b> is saying a prayer on the same evening as the wedding of the fallen Marine's U.S. Naval Academy roommate, U.S. Navy <b>LT (SEAL) Brendan Looney</b>, who is just 48 hours away from deploying to Fallujah, Iraq as a member of SEAL Team Three. Just over a year earlier, Travis had been killed while shielding his fellow Marines from enemy fire in the same violent Iraqi city.<br />
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Every week in this column space, you read about the selfless American heroes who serve and sacrifice in the spirit of five unforgettable words uttered by Travis just before his second and final combat deployment: "If not me, then who ... " Hopefully, the story of Travis, Brendan and their loved ones will inspire more Americans to put the needs of others before our own. "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>" will be released on May 13.<br />
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"'God bless Uncle Travis,' a blonde-haired, 2-year-old girl said in her soft, tender voice.<br />
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A step down from her family's kitchen, where little Maggie Rose Borek was saying her prayers at the dinner table, pictures of Travis (Manion) hung on the living room wall. One photo showed the smiling Marine holding her when she was a baby.<br />
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Old enough to comprehend that her uncle had gone to heaven, Maggie finished her nightly prayers on a muggy summer evening in Doylestown, Pennslyvania. Fourteen months earlier, flag-carrying mourners had solemnly filled Doylestown's quaint streets to honor Travis after he was killed on Apr. 29, 2007.<br />
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As Maggie prayed for her fallen uncle on July 12, 2008, the city and surrounding Bucks County were bustling with life. Malls and movie theaters were packed; hoagie and ice cream shops had long lines; and most television screens portrayed the 2008 presidential campaign, along with Philadelphia Phillies games, instead of the daily struggles and accomplishments of U.S. troops serving in Iraq and Afghanistan. After Travis died, things went back to normal for almost everyone except the Manions, whose lives had not been the same since two Marines arrived at their door on a horrible Sunday that Maggie was mercifully too young to remember.<br />
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Maggie's mom and Travis's sister, Ryan (Manion Borek), had been aware of the risks of her younger brother's post-9/11 military service, but never really thought Maggie would grow up learning about her uncle through stories and pictures. Ryan had even dismissed Travis's attempt to bring up the possibility of not coming home from Iraq, preferring to imagine a world in which tragedy couldn't reach her family's doorstep.<br />
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Ryan and Travis's parents, Tom and Janet (Manion), weren't in Doylestown that night. They were in Annapolis, Md., for the wedding of Amy and Brendan (Looney), who were getting married not far from the dorm where Brendan and Travis had roomed together. Ryan had spoken to her mom earlier that day, who had said she was dreading her first overnight stay in Annapolis since Travis's death. But seeing Brendan for the first time in almost a year would make the pain worthwhile.<br />
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Ryan knew how close Travis had been to Brendan, his now twenty-seven-year-old, former U.S. Naval Academy roommate. She also knew that Travis should have been one of Brendan's groomsmen, which weighed heavily on her mind as the sun set during a mild Pennsylvania thunderstorm.<br />
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After putting Maggie to bed Ryan, who was six months pregnant with her second child, watched the rain from the window of her darkened upstairs bedroom. The Marine's pretty older sister, who always wore a bracelet bearing Travis's name, pictured what should have been happening that night: Her brother, her parents and Brendan laughing up a storm and doing shots of Patron (tequila), just like at their friend Ben Mathews's wedding shortly before Travis was killed.<br />
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Ryan still spoke about her little brother in the present tense and usually immersed herself in long hours at work to avoid thinking about losing him. But on this Saturday night, there was no escape."<br />
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<i>Images courtesy: Liz Harman</i><br />
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On May 27, 2010, then-U.S. Army Maj. Jaimie Leonard wrote <a href="http://warwickadvertiser.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20100527/NEWS/305279843/0/SEARCH">a stirring piece</a> about the meaning of Memorial Day for her hometown newspaper.<br />
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"It was not until I actually went to war in Iraq and when fellow soldiers in my unit failed to make it back from patrol did I truly internalize the distinction," the soldier wrote in <a href="http://warwickadvertiser.com/">The Warwick Advertiser</a>. "It wasn't until then that I truly valued how these brave men and women who died serving our country deserved their own day memorializing their sacrifice."<br />
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Long before she became an Army officer, Jaimie, who grew up in southeastern New York state, was carrying herself like a future leader.<br />
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"Jaimie was always determined and always wanted to do well in everything she did," her oldest of four sisters, Liz Harman, told me.<br />
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When Jaimie's dreams of attending the U.S. Military Academy at West Point were initially dashed, she dedicated every subsequent day to proving she belonged.<br />
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"She had that drive and determination to never, ever quit," Liz said. "She got into West Point that second year."<br />
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After being commissioned as an intelligence officer in 1997, Jaimie deployed to Bosnia in 1999, along with a subsequent stint in Korea and two in Germany. She served in Iraq from 2004 to 2005 and then in Afghanistan from 2010 to 2011.<br />
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"When she was deployed, we would send her food, but it turns out she'd work through all the meal times," Jaimie's oldest sister said. "She wanted to make sure she had everything together to support those around her."<br />
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Jaimie was a smart, hard-nosed soldier, but as soon as she came home from work, it was time to relax.<br />
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"She was either in a military uniform or a dress," Liz said with a chuckle. "There was no in between for her."<br />
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Time after time, Jaimie received high praise for her relentless efforts around the globe. The humble soldier, however, would never trumpet her accomplishments.<br />
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"It wasn't about the medals," Liz said. "She was proud of them, but they didn't define her."<br />
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Liz became understandably emotional when our discussion turned to Jaimie's 2013 deployment to Afghanistan, which started with a family tragedy. The day after Jaimie arrived on base, her and Liz's father died.<br />
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"She wanted to come home," Liz, 39, said. "But she wanted to get her troops together ... she felt like she had a responsibility."<br />
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For the next five months, Jaimie would email Liz to share her favorite memories of their dad. The sisters communicated more than during previous deployments, including an exchange about a care package Liz was preparing for Jaimie in early June.<br />
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"It was not only things for herself, but for the people around her," Liz said.<br />
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Then, on June 8, Liz, who was traveling with her husband and children, received a shocking phone call from one of her sisters. Jaimie, she learned, had been killed in Afghanistan.<br />
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"I didn't believe it," Liz said. "I was just screaming ... "<br />
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Liz said that Jaimie, 39, was shot and killed by a disgruntled Afghan National Army soldier. According to the Pentagon, <b>Lt. Col. Todd Clark</b>, 40, was also killed in the tragic incident.<br />
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Liz is not bitter toward the Afghan people for the apparent "insider" attack.<br />
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"They said at the service in Afghanistan at the (Forward Operating Base) for them, Afghan generals were crying," she said.<br />
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There have been plenty of tears shed by Liz and her four siblings, and many well-deserved honors for Jaimie, who was posthumously promoted to Lieutenant Colonel.<br />
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"Everybody came together," Liz Harman said.<br />
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While closing her unforgettable Memorial Day 2010 column in The Warwick Advertiser, future <b>Lt. Col. Jaimie Leonard</b> called upon Americans to "consider your duties as citizens."<br />
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"Remember those who paid the ultimate sacrifice for their country in war, but also honor those others who sacrifice in other ways to make this country great — law enforcement, firefighters, teachers, volunteers, etc.," she wrote. "Please honor them in deed and not just giving thanks, parades, or planting flowers or flags on graves.<br />
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"Take measure of what have you done for your country and ask yourself if you could do more."<br />
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Kevin Sisson will never forget the day he challenged his son, future U.S. Army <b>2nd Lt. Justin Sisson</b>, on a baseball field in Overland Park, Kan.<br />
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"I met him as he was coming back to the dugout," said Kevin, who was coaching his teenage son's team, which was behind in the game. "I said, 'You need to step up ... the team needs you to lead.'"<br />
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The next time Justin came to bat, he hit a home run. Then, with the game on the line, Justin did it again.<br />
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"It was his second home run," Kevin proudly recalled. "And it was Father's Day."<br />
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Justin had never hit a ball out of the park before the memorable Father's Day gift, and he never did so again. But the moment reminded his parents that whenever their son was challenged, he would respond.<br />
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"He always fought back," Kevin said. "He was never down and out."<br />
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Justin strived to follow in his grandfather's footsteps by attending West Point. But when he initially failed to gain a coveted spot at the U.S. Military Academy, Justin refused to give up his dream of becoming an Army officer. <br />
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"He went to (Florida State University) with an ROTC scholarship," Justin's mom, Phyllis Sisson, said. "He wound up joining the National Guard."<br />
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During his sophomore year, Justin volunteered for a deployment to Iraq with his National Guard unit.<br />
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"As a college student, he did not have to deploy," Justin's dad said. "He did not have to go."<br />
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"He felt like it was going to make him a better officer," his mom added. "He got his first Bronze Star as a Specialist."<br />
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Sure enough, when Justin came home, a letter inviting him to attend West Point — the second since his initial rejection — was waiting.<br />
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"Justin once again said no," Phyllis said.<br />
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After the Iraq war veteran graduated from Florida State, 2nd Lt. Justin Sisson was commissioned as an officer and soon became a Ranger with the 101st Airborne Division, which he was eager to join on an upcoming Afghanistan deployment. <br />
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"This is what he wanted to do," the soldier's mother said.<br />
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"He wasn't going to do it any other way," his father added.<br />
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In May 2013, with Justin leading his platoon near Afghanistan's border with Pakistan, Kevin and Phyllis knew their son faced grave danger.<br />
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"Justin had told us before he deployed that the Taliban and al-Qaida were coming back over the mountains," his mom said.<br />
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But when both parents connected with Justin for a rare Skype call on his remote base, they saw a 23-year-old man making a difference.<br />
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"He looked really good," Phyllis said.<br />
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"He was happy," Kevin agreed.<br />
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On June 3, 2013, the Sissons learned that their son had been killed — along with <b>Spc. Robert Pierce</b>, 20 — by a suicide vehicle-borne improvised explosive device. Justin's parents said that the attack also killed an Afghan police officer and 10 schoolchildren.<br />
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"He was fighting the whole way," Phyllis said of Justin, who eventually succumbed from blood loss after suffering a devastating shrapnel wound.<br />
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Justin's parents, who now live in Phoenix, are thankful to the Army, the Patriot Guard Riders and communities across the country for coming together to honor their son, who was buried at Leavenworth National Cemetery in Kansas.<br />
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"When we got to Leavenworth, all these kids and families were holding signs and posters," Kevin said. "It was just tremendous."<br />
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When Justin's personal effects were sent home from Afghanistan, one item may have meant the most of all.<br />
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"Justin had told me that he had a Mother's Day gift for me," Phyllis said.<br />
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Sure enough, a jewelry box wrapped in bubble paper found its way to Justin's mom. A fellow soldier was with Justin in an Afghan village when he bought it.<br />
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"That would be perfect for my mom," the soldier quoted Justin as saying.<br />
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Less than a year after 2nd Lt. Justin Sisson's death, Kevin and Phyllis have endowed an ROTC scholarship fund in his memory at Florida State. They miss their son, and they will always treasure his Mother's and Father's Day gifts.<br />
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"Our greatest fear is that we're going to forget something," the father said.<br />
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"So we're doing whatever we can to keep his memory alive," the mother added. <br />
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Before leaving for his fifth deployment to Iraq, <b>Master Sgt. Robert Horrigan</b>, who had been planning to retire from the U.S. Army, told his commanding officer that "if you're going, I'm going with you."<br />
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Master Sgt. Horrigan, 40, wound up <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2014/04/bigger-than-life.html">making the ultimate sacrifice</a> during that deployment.<br />
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After <b>Staff Sgt. Travis Mills</b> lost his arms and legs in Afghanistan, he lay in his hospital bed worrying about his fellow soldiers still in harm's way. Every day, he would have his wife <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2012/05/hes-still-here.html">send messages to his Army brothers</a> to make sure they were safe.<br />
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Staff Sgt. Mills, now 27, has since become a <a href="http://travisthemovie.com/">nationally recognizable</a> face of America's wounded warriors.<br />
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When <b>1st Lt. Travis Manion</b> was asked why he had to return a second time to the hellish streets of Fallujah, Iraq, he told his brother-in-law that if he didn't go, a Marine with less experience would be sent in his place.<br />
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"<a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2014/02/brothers-forever-if-not-me-then-who.html">If not me, then who...</a> " 1st Lt. Manion, 26, said five months before he was killed in action.<br />
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Our nation is consumed with the selfie, which dominates social media and has been embraced by many media figures, celebrities and even some prominent politicians. While there is nothing wrong with posting fun pictures, the selfie fad underscores an increase tendency to celebrate ourselves.<br />
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In this column space, you read about heroes like Horrigan, Mills and Manion, who placed service above self while asking for nothing in return. These brave men and women do not seek the spotlight, and in many cases, are uncomfortable if the spotlight finds them.<br />
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While many television stations, newspapers and websites focus on the selfie, this column is a place to read about the "unselfie" — an act of unselfishness. In my mind, these are the moments that should also saturate social media, especially when it comes to the Facebook, Twitter and Instagram accounts of national leaders.<br />
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<b>Master Sgt. Jennifer Loredo</b> was serving in Afghanistan when her husband, <b>Staff Sgt. Eddie Loredo</b>, 34, was killed in a different part of the country. When I spoke with Master Sgt. Loredo, the 37-year-old soldier was <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2013/05/love-on-battlefield.html">leading the Army's Master Resilience Training program</a> to help other military families cope with tragedy.<br />
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Nobody would have looked down on Jennifer if she left the military to grieve her husband and focus solely on caring for their children. Instead, she put others above herself.<br />
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"I wanted to make (Eddie) proud and my kids proud, too," she said.<br />
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<b>First Lt. Tom Martin</b>'s first application to the U.S. Military Academy at West Point was rejected. He joined the Army anyway and eventually gained acceptance to the storied institution.<br />
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"He had a true conviction for what was right," his mother, Candy Martin, said.<br />
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The respected Army officer could have done anything he wanted with his life before he was killed in action at age 27. Instead of believing that responding to 9/11 was someone else's job, 1st Lt. Martin <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2013/11/the-story-goes-on.html">took it upon himself</a> to protect America.<br />
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"I gotta go rid the world of evil," he often said.<br />
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<b>Sgt. Devin Snyder</b> was a popular, athletic high school track star who loved the color pink. But when high school was over, she enlisted in the Army.<br />
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"She was very strong-willed," Sgt. Snyder's father, Ed, told me. "She knew what she wanted."<br />
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Devin was devastated when she saw fellow soldiers injured in an enemy roadside bomb attack in Afghanistan. But while agonizing for her wounded friends, she enthusiastically suited up for another mission, during which she was killed at age 20.<br />
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After Devin <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/07/somebody-to-love.html">made the ultimate sacrifice</a>, friends painted an American flag with her smiling face on a rock in Upstate New York. Soon after a local fraternity was criticized for painting over the memorial, it issued a statement.<br />
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"In a brief moment of self-gratification, we thought of no one else but ourselves, and for that we were wrong," <a href="http://rochester.twcnews.com/content/news/581285/memorial-rock-painted-over-in-livingston-county/">the statement</a>, printed by <a href="http://rochester.twcnews.com/">Time Warner Cable News Rochester</a>, read in part.<br />
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The fraternity's epiphany is instructive, because the frequency of Americans placing self above all else is too often. Whenever I'm guilty of becoming consumed with my own interests, my weekly conversations with these heroes and their families serve as dramatic wake-up calls.<br />
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The selfie is fun. The "unselfie" is what truly matters.<br />
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We all have a favorite place. U.S. Army Sgt. Michael Ristau's was the front porch.<br />
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"When he was in Iraq and Afghanistan — when we would ask him what he needs — the very last thing he would always say is 'don't forget to pack the front porch,'" said Sgt. Ristau's mother, Susie Ristau.<br />
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For Michael, the front porch of his parents' Cascade, Iowa, home — which they bought shortly after he joined the military in 2004 — was a place of peace. It was of stark contrast to the battlefields the young soldier had experienced since 9/11, as well as a major health scare.<br />
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Long before Michael joined the military, he was the neighborhood prankster growing up in Rockford, Ill.<br />
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"He was a fun kid ... he was a jokester," Susie said. "Whenever he walked into a room, it could be 'blah' but he would have everyone laughing within five minutes."<br />
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After getting into trouble during high school, Michael went to a military academy, where he gained both discipline and a diploma. He also made a decision about what would come next: enlisting in the Army.<br />
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"I said 'no ... I don't want you to go,'" Susie recounted. "Then my husband sat him down and said 'Michael, this is not fun and games ... we are at war.'"<br />
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Undeterred by the conflict in Afghanistan and increasing bloodshed in Iraq, Michael, then 17, convinced his parents to sign release papers.<br />
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"Mom, I have to do this," Susie quoted her son as saying. "I have to go fight for our country."<br />
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From that moment on, Michael received his parents' unflinching support.<br />
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Roughly three years after finishing basic training and being stationed at Washington's Fort Lewis, Michael called his parents from Iraq with shocking news.<br />
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"While he was there they discovered a lump in his throat, took him to Germany for a biopsy and found out that he had cancer," Susie said.<br />
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For the young soldier, the most frustrating part of the disease wasn't the diagnosis itself. It was leaving Iraq early and missing the chance to deploy a second time with his brothers and sisters in arms.<br />
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"He felt he needed to be there," the soldier's mom said. "That was pretty hard on him."<br />
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By May 2011, Michael was cancer-free and cleared for a deployment to Afghanistan. He left that December, just 19 days after the soldier and his wife, Elizabeth, welcomed their first child.<br />
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In May 2012, Michael re-enlisted. His mom — already on pins and needles while her son served in a war zone — was upset, but eventually came to understand Michael's decision.<br />
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"He felt that the Army was where he needed to be," she said.<br />
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On July 13, 2012, Susie was alone in her house when she saw a strange brown truck sitting outside. Next was a series of knocks that got progressively louder.<br />
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"As I opened the screen door, I saw the chaplain and other (soldiers) walking to the side of the house," said Susie, her voice cracking with emotion. "I just dropped to the floor, because I knew."<br />
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After her husband, Randy, rushed home from work, the soldiers told both stunned parents that <b>Sgt. Michael Ristau</b>, 25, had been killed earlier that day in Afghanistan when enemy forces attacked his vehicle with an improvised explosive device.<br />
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For Susie, nothing was worse than sharing the dreadful news with Michael's siblings.<br />
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"It was horrible," she said.<br />
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Over 1,000 people and 2,000 American flags filled the small Iowa community to salute the fallen soldier and his family. But for Susie, the hardest part came when the ceremonies ended.<br />
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"It's still day-by-day," Susie said 20 months after Michael's death. "I was in a very bad depression stage until about three weeks ago."<br />
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If there is one calming place, it is the front porch that gave Sgt. Michael Ristau a respite from the horrors of war.<br />
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"That summer in 2012 ... I lived on that front porch," the Gold Star mom said. "That was the place where I found the most comfort."<br />
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As the Midwest warms up from a hard winter, Susie Ristau plans to sit in her favorite place and remember the 25 years she had with her son.<br />
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"He's with me all the time," she said.<br />
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As twin brothers, <b>Robert and John Horrigan</b> did everything together. Whether it was hunting and fishing as boys or joining the U.S. Army as adults, their bond was one that could never be broken.<br />
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"The closest person to me on the face of the earth was my twin brother," John, 49, said.<br />
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From an early age, Master Sgt. Robert Horrigan displayed qualities that would lead to him becoming one of America's most respected battlefield warriors.<br />
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"He would give you the shirt off his back," the soldier's twin said. "Robert would do anything for anybody ... if he had a dollar in his pocket and you needed it, he'd give it to you."<br />
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Dollars were sometimes hard to come by as the Horrigan family endured financial struggles during parts of Robert and John's boyhood.<br />
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"You earn what you've got, and my father, my mom ... all of us were like that," John said. "It takes hard work and dedication to get where you are, and Robert was the same way."<br />
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In 1984, the Horrigan twins joined the U.S. Army. The brothers would eventually end up in the same Ranger platoon, where they served under <b>Gen. Stanley McChrystal</b>, the future commander of all U.S. forces in Afghanistan.<br />
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"It was phenomenal being in the Army together with my brother," John said.<br />
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Even though John had long since retired from military service by Sept. 11, 2001, he could see the impact the terrorist attacks had on his brother, who had earned a coveted spot on the Army's elite Delta Force.<br />
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"I know it affected him a lot, especially with the unit he was with," the soldier's brother said. "He went down and got the U.S. flag tattooed on his left (pectoral muscle)."<br />
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By December 2001, Robert was hunting Osama bin Laden in what would become one of the most important chapters of the entire U.S.-led war on terrorism.<br />
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In the years to come, Robert was part of many historic battles. His astounding bravery and heroism has been chronicled in several books, and quickly became legendary in military circles.<br />
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"Robert saw Gen. McChrystal about 15 years after we were in Ranger battalion, and Stanley remembered," John recalled. "For someone to remember your name 15 years later is pretty incredible."<br />
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Still, the burdens placed on Robert's shoulders were almost superhuman in nature.<br />
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"Robert went to Afghanistan three times and went to Iraq five times," his twin said.<br />
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Having served in the military himself, John knew that his brother was frequently in life or death situations. He remembers one particular conversation they had about preparing for the worst.<br />
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"If I get killed, you're just going to have to get over it," Robert told his twin.<br />
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"It's easier said than done," John replied.<br />
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By 2005, John was a firefighter in Austin, Texas, while Robert, who was married with one daughter, was starting to look beyond his 19-year military career.<br />
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"He wanted to get out and he wanted to make knives," John said. "He enjoyed the craft of it."<br />
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Before he retired from the Army, Robert volunteered for one last deployment with his Delta Force brothers.<br />
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"If you're going, I'm going with you," the master sergeant told his commanding officer.<br />
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As Robert fought insurgents in Iraq and John fought fires in Austin, the Horrigan twins kept in close touch via email. But one summer day, their frequent communication suddenly ceased.<br />
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On June 17, 2005, Master Sgt. Robert Horrigan, 40, was killed while raiding a suspected enemy safe house in al-Qaim, Iraq. <b>Master Sgt. Michael McNulty</b>, 36, who was <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2014/03/always-there.html">also killed in the fierce battle</a>, also left behind a twin brother.<br />
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"I loved my brother so much that I wouldn't want him to experience the pain I'm going through," John said. "Losing him was probably the hardest thing I've ever done in my life."<br />
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John Horrigan, who makes knives while he's not fighting fires, is proud of his twin brother's three Bronze Star medals. But to this day, he admires Robert's mettle most.<br />
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"Robert was bigger than life," he said. "He is and will always be my hero."<br />
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Sara Beth Bedgood was only 13 years old on Sept. 11, 2001. As the Twin Towers collapsed, she felt anguish for the victims and a deep sense of concern for her father, <b>Col. Thomas Felts Sr.</b>, who had been serving in the U.S. Army since before she was born.<br />
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"I remember thinking that my dad's going to have to go to war," Sara Beth said. "He's going to go fight people."<br />
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To this day, Sara Beth vividly recalls a conversation she had with her dad just as the U.S.-led war on terrorism got underway.<br />
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"Yeah, that's my job ... that's my duty," she quoted her father as saying. "That's what I train to do every single day."<br />
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As the oldest of four children, Sara Beth had the clearest understanding of a soldier's sacrifices. Ever since she was a little girl, she had been moving around the world with her parents and siblings, while also observing her father's shared commitment to family and country.<br />
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"Even when he was away, he knew what we were doing in school," Sara Beth said. "He and my mom talked constantly and he was very much a part of our lives, no matter what."<br />
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Sara Beth recalls going to work with her father one day when she was young.<br />
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"I remember another soldier saluting my dad and saying 'yes, sir,'" she said. "And I remember thinking that my dad was very important."<br />
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Indeed, by the time Col. Felts and his family moved to Fort Leavenworth in Kansas, he was a deeply respected military officer who was known for genuinely caring about the soldiers under his command.<br />
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"He shared with me how much he admired the men around him," Sara Beth said.<br />
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While the Felts family had started preparing for a combat deployment on 9/11, it took almost five years for the colonel to deploy overseas. For such a dedicated leader, watching younger troops go to Iraq and Afghanistan while he stayed on the home front "really tore him up inside," according to the soldier's oldest child.<br />
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"These men had been away from their families so many times, and he wanted to share that load," Sara Beth said.<br />
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As Sara Beth finished her senior year of high school and prepared to leave for college, her dad deployed to Iraq in the winter of 2006.<br />
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"The father of a friend of mine was supposed to go, and my dad actually volunteered in his place," she said, adding that her friend's father had already served multiple tours.<br />
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The deployment was relatively smooth until November 2006, when a group of Sara Beth's relatives unexpectedly showed up at her dorm room. She will never forget the moment her uncle delivered the most shocking news any teenager can experience.<br />
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"God has decided to take your dad home," Sara Beth's uncle said.<br />
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On Nov. 14, 2006, Col. Thomas Felts Sr., 45, and <b>Spc. Justin Garcia</b>, 26, were killed by an improvised explosive device that blew up near their vehicle in Baghdad, according to the Pentagon. Suddenly, Sara Beth, who was attending Campbell University in Buies Creek, N.C., was heading back to Kansas for her father's funeral.<br />
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"It was very surreal," she said. "I remember clearly thinking I was in a dream."<br />
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Her dad's memorial service was attended by military leaders like <b>Gen. David Petraeus</b>, as well as countless relatives, friends, supporters and even a stranger who brought her little boy.<br />
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"I needed to show my son what a hero looks like," the supporter told the Felts family.<br />
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Col. Thomas Felts Sr. is remembered for his faith in God and the people around him, including his wife, four children, fellow soldiers, and even the Iraqi troops and civilians with whom he shared a close bond.<br />
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Sara Beth, 26, is now married and lives near Raleigh, N.C. Her husband is a soldier, and the couple has already endured one overseas deployment.<br />
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While Sara Beth Bedgood will always miss her father, his spirit lives on inside her heart.<br />
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"My family and I love talking about my dad and sharing his memories," she said. "We really try to keep him alive in that way. We know we're going to see him again."<br />
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The following is an excerpt from "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>," which I co-authored with retired U.S. Marine <b>Col. Tom Manion</b>. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Brothers-Forever-Enduring-Transcended-Sacrifice/dp/0306822377/">The book</a> will be released <a href="http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/brothers-forever-tom-sileo/1117079096?ean=9780306822377">on May 13</a>.<br />
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In this scene, U.S. Navy <b>LT (SEAL) Brendan Looney</b> is serving in Afghanistan three years after his friend and Naval Academy roommate, Marine <b>1st Lt. Travis Manion</b>, <a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/02/closer-to-you.html">was killed</a> in Iraq.<br />
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"With the Taliban launching its annual spring offensive, Brendan and his platoon started to see more action in May [2010], just as he had predicted in his email to Tom and Janet [Manion]. Surrounded by jagged cliffs, extreme poverty, and acute desolation, which many of the younger SEALs had never experienced, it was Brendan's responsibility to keep them optimistic, focused, and sharp. But considering that the SEALs were sleeping on a [base] 'in the middle of nowhere,' thousands of miles from home, setting a positive tone was never an easy task.<br />
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"Rather than barking out orders to the SEALs under his command, Brendan was 'Loon-Dog.' The enlisted SEALs, or 'E-Dogs,' as they were nicknamed, loved working for the 29-year-old lieutenant, because even though Brendan was an officer, he still thought of himself as just one of the guys.<br />
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"During his deployment, Brendan spent roughly the equivalent of two full weeks on 'over watch' missions above three districts in northern Zabul province, where the lieutenant and SEALs under his command would look down from the cliffs to make sure their brothers in arms operating below were safe from lurking Taliban and al Qaeda fighters. But after only a day or two on the high ground, Brendan was concerned that his primary responsibilities as an officer and squad commander weren't enough of a contribution to his platoon. Upon returning to base, he started training on a .50 caliber sniper rifle so he could directly help his teammates blunt the enemy threat.<br />
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"After only limited training, Brendan was a consistent shot from a thousand yards. Over the next few months he made some of the most accurate shots his teammates had ever seen to protect Americans and Afghans in the villages below.<br />
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"Wearing a half-shell helmet and carrying heavy gear and the .50 cal sniper rifle in his huge backpack, the bearded warrior patrolled, exercised, ate and hung out with his entire platoon.<br />
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"When there was extra gear to carry, the officer threw it on his back instead of ordering enlisted SEALs to carry it. Regardless of the command structure or rank, Loon-Dog treated everyone with the same respect.<br />
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"When things got dicey on the battlefield, however, there was no mistaking who was in charge, like one day when gunfire rang out beneath the over watch position Brendan's SEAL team had established above a small, Taliban-controlled Afghan village.<br />
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"'Incoming!' Brendan yelled.<br />
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"As bullets pounded the mountain rocks that were shielding his team, who took cover as soon as they heard their leader's unmistakable voice, Brendan's commanding officer (CO) asked for a status report over the radio.<br />
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"'We've got enemy fire coming from just outside the village,' Brendan said. 'Nobody's been hit, and we're prepping the counterattack.'<br />
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"'Lieutenant?' the CO asked.<br />
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"'Sir?' Brendan repeated what he had said a few times before realizing the signal was dropping in and out, as it had been for most of the day.<br />
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"'Lieutenant,' the CO repeated. 'If you copy, call me on the SAT [satellite] phone.'<br />
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"As soon as Brendan heard the order, he broke his crouch and stood up. The SAT phone was a few yards in front of the boulder that was protecting him.<br />
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"'Whoa, Loon-Dog,' exclaimed a surprised fellow SEAL. 'Be careful, sir.'<br />
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"Brendan knew his CO wouldn't ask him to call unless it was extremely important, and for all he knew, retrieving the satellite phone could be a matter of life and death. Without blinking, Brendan hustled toward the phone, picked it up, and returned to his position as bullets whizzed by.<br />
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"'Loon-Dog ... you all right?' [Brendan's teammate] said.<br />
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"'I'm OK,' said Brendan, acting more like he was taking an afternoon stroll than engaging in an intense firefight.<br />
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"Brendan then told his CO that his men were ready to strike back at the enemy. Moments later he aimed his sniper rifle at the enemy position. When the day was over, the Navy SEALs had once again disrupted the Taliban's plans."<br />
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When Saddam Hussein was captured by American forces, U.S. Army <b>Master Sgt. Michael McNulty</b> was there.<br />
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"He was just so proud and humble," Paula Boyer, then-wife of Master Sgt. McNulty, said. "But at the same time, he wasn't gloating ... it was not a time for gloating."<br />
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Like his fellow Delta Force warriors, Mike's chief concern was accomplishing a mission, rather than worrying about who got the credit.<br />
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"He would never tell us what he was doing," Paula said. "He would just say 'I have a job and I'll be out of the loop for [a certain] amount of time.'"<br />
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Growing up in northwest Chicago, Paula and Mike were high school sweethearts who would sneak around to see each other. Mike had already joined the Army when the couple got married on Jan. 3, 1987.<br />
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"Our love was bigger than any love anyone could ever imagine," Paula said.<br />
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Before she knew it, Paula was a military wife during the closing chapters of the Cold War. Even as they travelled around the world, the couple still welcomed four children in five years.<br />
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"He was a part of me and I was a part of him," Paula said about Mike. "He couldn't do his job without being whole, so we made each other whole."<br />
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Mike, Paula and their children were at Louisiana's Fort Polk when hijacked airplanes slammed into the World Trade Center, Pentagon and a Pennsylvania field. They soon moved to North Carolina's Fort Bragg, where Mike quickly deployed to Afghanistan. With her husband in Special Operations during wartime, Paula knew the pattern would continue.<br />
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"He wasn't [at home] much, but when he was there, he was 100 percent there," Paula said.<br />
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Hours before the world learned that U.S. troops had pulled ousted Iraqi dictator Saddam Hussein out of a spider hole near his hometown of Tikrit, Mike called Paula with a simple message: "I'm OK." It wasn't until he came home that Mike's wife fully understood how the day's momentous events had impacted him.<br />
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"He was glowing because it was such a historical moment and he was there," Paula said. "He was just so proud to do something that he knows really affected the world and made the world a better place."<br />
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Less than two years later, on Apr. 8, 2005, Paula and one of the couple's two daughters dropped Mike off at his post for another Iraq deployment.<br />
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"I was used to dropping him off and never really got emotional, but that ride home ... my daughter and I just bawled and bawled," Paula said.<br />
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For the soldier's wife of 18 years, the hardest part of Mike's deployment wasn't caring for four kids. It was waiting to hear from her husband.<br />
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"Until another phone call, time just stood still," Paula said.<br />
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In the early morning hours of June 17, 2005, Paula was about to go see her youngest son, Eric, graduate from Junior ROTC when six soldiers arrived at her home.<br />
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"I will never, ever, ever forget that day," she said.<br />
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According to the Pentagon, <b>Master Sgt. Michael McNulty</b>, 36, and <b>Master Sgt. Robert Horrigan</b>, 40, had been killed by enemy fire while conducting combat operations in al-Qaim, Iraq.<br />
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"He was brought to the field hospital," Paula said about her husband. "The unit doc did surgery, and Mike didn't make it."<br />
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For Paula and her four children, the world as they knew it had been shattered. The only thing they could count on was each other, as well as the compassion of those around them.<br />
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"I received so many letters and cards from people ... so much support from the community," Paula said. "It was just overwhelming."<br />
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In more than eight years since the soldier's death, his four children have made the difficult adjustment of growing up without their dad's physical presence. But as Eric demonstrated by deploying to Afghanistan and Iraq, Mike's spirit endures.<br />
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"He has a huge impact on us," Paula said.<br />
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Paula Boyer has since remarried, but like her children, she will never forget an American hero who — to this day — is always there.<br />
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"I wouldn't be who I am today without every part of Mike," she said. "I will continue to live with him, for him and about him."<br />
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This year, the United States will observe its 13th Memorial Day since 9/11. Thousands of Americans have made the ultimate sacrifice since our country was attacked, yet many mark this occasion with barbeques and ballgames, while forgetting to honor our nation's fallen.<br />
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The holiday's significance will never be lost on Rachaelle Langmack. The day after Memorial Day 2005, Rachaelle was worried about her husband, <b>Sgt. 1st Class Steven Langmack</b>, who was deployed to Iraq with the U.S. Army's elite Delta Force. Things were never the same for the military wife and the couple's two children when Steven was in harm's way.<br />
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"That's when they came and knocked on my door," Rachaelle said.<br />
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At first, Rachaelle thought the soldiers standing outside her Raeford, N.C. home were two of Steven's friends. That hope ended when the Army wife heard five terrible words: "We regret to inform you ... "<br />
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"I just lost it," Rachaelle said. "But my first thought was for my kids."<br />
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Rachaelle met Steven near Fort Benning in Columbus, Ga., shortly after he returned from serving in Operation Desert Storm.<br />
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"I definitely wanted no part of a military guy," she admitted with a chuckle. "But a lot of [why Rachaelle was drawn to Steven] was his confidence ... he was very self-assured and funny."<br />
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By the late 1990s, the couple was married and raising two sons. Even before the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq, raising a military family was a challenge.<br />
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"Before 9/11 and everything, guys were still going places and still jumping out of airplanes ... there were a lot of training accidents," Rachaelle said. "It was still a dangerous job."<br />
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After America was attacked, the danger Steven was already facing crystallized into an even more serious threat.<br />
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"My husband used to always equate a lot of things to practice for a big football game," the soldier's wife said. "All that training ... they were preparing to fight. Once 9/11 happened and we were going to war, that was the game."<br />
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Steven quickly deployed to Afghanistan, and was back and forth from the country numerous times in nearly four years.<br />
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"It was horrible," Rachaelle said. "There was one deployment when [a fellow soldier] was killed. That was really hard ... that was the first time I've seen him break down."<br />
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In 2005, Steven and Rachaelle were busy fixing up a 100-year-old farmhouse that their family would soon call home. Even though a deployment to Iraq was on the horizon, Steven fully devoted himself to his wife and two boys.<br />
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"He kept his work life very separate from his family life," Steven's wife said. "He never wore a uniform at home."<br />
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The soldier's work and family lives tragically merged in the violent Iraqi town of Al Qaim, where U.S. troops fought many fierce battles with insurgents and terrorists.<br />
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"Steven was shot while breaching a house," his wife said. "They were going after some bad guys."<br />
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The death of Sgt. 1st Class Steven Langmack, 33, was a devastating blow to the entire community, which immediately wrapped its collective arms around the fallen hero's children.<br />
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"How was I going to tell them?" Rachaelle said. "They loved their dad a lot ... they were very close."<br />
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In order to compose herself, Rachaelle waited a few hours after the receiving the dreadful news before having her kids picked up from school.<br />
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"I thought I had to be really strong for them, because if I broke down, they would break down," she said.<br />
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More than eight years after the brave soldier, devoted husband and loving father was laid to rest at Arlington National Cemetery, his towering legacy gives daily strength to his widow and two sons.<br />
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"I've always admired him, and I try to raise my kids the same way that we tried to raise them together," Rachaelle Langmack said. "It's hard doing this by yourself, but I feel like when you bring them into this world — the military world — you kind of have to sacrifice part of yourself."<br />
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More than 12 years after 9/11, there is no doubt that our military's sacrifices continue. The only question is whether this Memorial Day — and the day after — the rest of the country will once again take notice.<br />
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Navy SEALs are known for their bravery, toughness and physical prowess. But as I've met, interviewed and written about these American heroes, the trait that's impressed me most is the one Mary Jane Kantor emphasized about her son during our recent phone interview.<br />
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"He never complained," she said repeatedly.<br />
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Long before U.S. Navy <b>Petty Officer 2nd Class Matthew Kantor</b> became one of our nation's elite warriors, he was thinking about serving his country while growing up about 30 miles from Manhattan in Gillette, N.J.<br />
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"He always wanted to go into the military ... since the day he was born, really," Mary Jane said.<br />
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When Matt was in high school, military recruiters started calling the Kantor home. His mother would usually hang up on them, fearing that the horror her community had felt on 9/11 — when Matt was 11 years old — would someday put her son's life at risk. But no matter how much she tried to dissuade him, Matt was on a mission.<br />
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"He was training for something," Matt's mom said. "He wasn't joining the swim team for fun ... he would be swimming lap after lap."<br />
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Following high school, Matt received a full scholarship to the New Jersey Institute of Technology. He returned home to his parents after four days.<br />
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"Your dream is college," Matt said to his mom. "My dream is to become a Navy SEAL."<br />
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Each year, hundreds of the nation's strongest and bravest try to become SEALs. Most fail. Matt, who trained in New York with former SEALs before heading to Coronado, Calif., was unwavering in his quest to graduate from Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL (BUD/S) training.<br />
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"He was determined," Mary Jane said. "Things were going pretty well ... he never complained about it."<br />
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In May 2010, after making it through "Hell Week" and more than five additional months of one of the world's most rigorous training programs, Matt completed BUD/S. He wasn't old enough to buy a beer, but Matt had earned his Navy SEAL trident.<br />
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Soon after he was stationed near Virginia Beach, Matt called his mom with big news: He would soon deploy to Afghanistan with SEAL Team Four.<br />
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"To him, and to all those guys, I think, that's where they want to go," the SEAL's mom said. "You train for it for three years."<br />
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Matt had been in Afghanistan for about six weeks when Superstorm Sandy began ravaging his home state. On Nov. 1, 2012, Matt's parents had just returned home from their daughter's college, Rutgers University, where they took their first hot showers in days after losing electricity.<br />
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Then, at about 11 p.m., their doorbell rang. When Matt's father, Kenneth, answered, he saw something just as terrible as the surrounding aftermath of a deadly hurricane. Outside in the dark were two Navy sailors tasked with sharing dreadful news about their son.<br />
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"I really did not believe it," Matt's mom said of the harrowing moments that followed.<br />
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A few days later, the devastated Kantors received a letter from SEAL Team Four in Afghanistan.<br />
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"While on patrol, several insurgents mounted a complex machine gun attack on Matt and his team," it read in part. "Without fear or hesitation, Matt moved to protect his teammates and was mortally wounded by the heavy machine gun fire.<br />
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"He was the first line of defense for his team and his actions were directly responsible for saving the lives of his element and protecting the main body of the patrol," the letter continued. "Matt was true to form in his last moments, a gallant and noble warrior who put his team above himself."<br />
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Petty Officer 2nd Class (SEAL) Matthew Kantor, 22, would posthumously receive the Bronze Star with Valor. When Kenneth eulogized his son in a packed church operating on generator power, he captured the feelings of the fallen warrior's loved ones, friends and teammates.<br />
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"I am so, so proud of you," Matt's dad said. "You died a hero."<br />
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Even after losing their oldest son, Kenneth and Mary Jane Kantor exemplify the trait that Matt shared with his fellow Navy SEALs. They never complain, and are also grateful to everyone who continues to surround their family with love and support.<br />
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"As hard as it is, it's nice that people aren't forgetting him," Matt's mom said.<br />
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Shortly after returning from six tense months on the violent streets of Iraq's Al Anbar Province, U.S. Army <b>Sgt. Steven DeLuzio</b> sat down with his parents.<br />
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"Steven came home from Iraq and said 'you have 30 minutes to ask me anything you want, and then I'll never talk about it again,'" the soldier's father, Mark DeLuzio, said.<br />
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Steven's dad quickly noticed a tattoo on one of his son's arms that appeared to depict the shrouded face of an Iraqi woman. When Mark asked Steven what the tattoo signified, the soldier explained that the female civilian had warned his patrol about a roadside bomb buried not far from their Humvee.<br />
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"The lady saved his life," Mark said.<br />
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Eventually, the grateful American soldiers went back to the Ramadi neighborhood to thank the woman for her words of warning. What they found inside her home was shocking and horrific.<br />
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"Steven found the woman, her husband and their kids all beheaded," the soldier's father said. "It really weighed on him."<br />
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Nobody forced Steven to serve in western Iraq, where countless insurgents have terrorized innocent men, women and children. While growing up in suburban Connecticut, Steven and his older brother, Scott, developed a deep respect for our nation's flag and those who defend it.<br />
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"They were very patriotic kids, and when 9/11 happened, they both felt a call and felt they wanted to do something," Mark said.<br />
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"It's a volunteer Army and they both volunteered to go," Steven and Scott's mother, Diane DeLuzio, added. "That's what they wanted to do."<br />
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In 2006, Steven was attending college in Vermont when he deployed to Iraq with the state's National Guard. While fearing for their youngest son's safety, Mark and Diane already knew of his bravery. At age 3, Steven had jumped on a bike without training wheels, and from that day forward, never backed down from a challenge.<br />
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"He wasn't a perfect kid — we knew he had his flaws — but he was always mature for his age," Diane said.<br />
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Much happened between Steven's 2006 return from Iraq and another 2010 combat deployment to Afghanistan. He graduated from college with an accounting degree, became an uncle and learned that his brother, Scott, would also deploy to Afghanistan around the same time.<br />
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Steven also asked his high school sweetheart, Leeza, to marry him. Their wedding date was set for Sept. 17, 2011, but before anyone could celebrate, Steven and Scott would have to survive Afghanistan.<br />
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"You worry, of course," their dad said. "We knew how dangerous Ramadi was, we knew how dangerous Afghanistan was, and now we had two there at the same time."<br />
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When Steven arrived in mountainous eastern Afghanistan, communication with his parents became scant, unlike Iraq. But whenever they did hear his voice, like in one particular August 2010 voicemail, Mark and Diane would smile.<br />
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"He was so excited that Leeza's sister was going to have a baby ... he was so excited to be an uncle again," Steven's mom said. "That was the last time we heard his voice."<br />
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On Aug. 22, 2010, Sgt. Steven DeLuzio, 25, and a fellow soldier, Sgt. Tristan Southworth, 21, were killed during a fierce clash with enemy fighters. Before anyone could blink, <b>Sgt. Scott DeLuzio</b> was escorting his brother's flag-draped casket out of Afghanistan.<br />
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"Steven was the first one killed in the battle," the fallen hero's dad said. "(U.S. forces) ended up prevailing, believe it or not."<br />
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When thousands lined Connecticut highways and South Glastonbury streets to honor their hometown hero, the DeLuzios knew their youngest son — like his big brother — had truly made a difference.<br />
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"It was very comforting to me at the time to know that so many people missed him," Steven's mom said. "In 25 years, he did so much."<br />
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One of the things Steven did was permanently memorialize the Iraqi woman who gave him the opportunity to live four more years.<br />
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"That's why he had the tattoo — to remember her," Mark said.<br />
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While we may not all have tattoos honoring the thousands of brave men and women to make the ultimate sacrifice since 9/11, the names, faces, words and deeds of heroes like Sgt. Steven DeLuzio should be emblazoned inside our hearts.<br />
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"Steven was a real leader," his father said.<br />
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<i>Image courtesy: <a href="http://www.travismanion.org/">Travis Manion Foundation</a></i><br />
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Every week, I write a column about America's heroes and their families that your newspaper is kind enough to publish. I am eternally grateful for the support of readers like you, who are eager to read the personal stories of our nation's brave men and women in uniform.<br />
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On Feb. 6, 2011, my first column — "<a href="http://www.unknownsoldiersblog.com/2011/02/closer-to-you.html">Closer to You</a>" — marked the beginning of this series, which was aimed at increasing awareness about the sacrifices still being made by our military community. It told the story of U.S. Marine <b>1st Lt. Travis Manion</b>, 26, who was killed in Iraq on Apr. 29, 2007, and U.S. Navy <b>LT (SEAL) Brendan Looney</b>, 29, who made the ultimate sacrifice in Afghanistan on Sept. 21, 2010. These close friends and U.S. Naval Academy roommates are buried side-by-side at Arlington National Cemetery.<br />
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Nine months later, I started writing a book with 1st Lt. Manion's father, U.S. Marine <b>Col. Tom Manion (Ret.)</b>. "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>," which will be published by <a href="http://www.perseusbooksgroup.com/dacapo/home.jsp">Da Capo Press</a> in May, chronicles not only the enduring bond of Travis and Brendan, who met just before 9/11, but salutes their courageous families and all the heroes who have stepped forward since our country was attacked.<br />
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The following excerpt is adapted from the fourth chapter of "<a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/">Brothers Forever</a>." In December 2006, Travis was attending a Monday Night Football game with his brother-in-law while preparing for his second deployment to Fallujah, Iraq. The five words Travis uttered that night — "if not me, then who ... " — deeply inspired his friend and former roommate, Brendan, as he subsequently trained to become a U.S. Navy SEAL. It also sparked a <a href="http://www.travismanion.org/">national movement</a> and motivated people outside the military community, like me, to help tell this powerful story.<br />
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"Even so close to going back to Iraq, Travis's demeanor was calm. He was doing exactly what he wanted with his life, and instead of complaining about spending the next 12 months in a war-ravaged city that could justifiably be labeled a hell hole, he felt fortunate for the chance to put all the hard work of the last eight years to good use.<br />
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As [Travis and his brother-in-law, Dave] listened to one of Travis's favorite iPod playlists, which consisted of everything from Johnny Cash and Elton John to Ben Harper and The Roots, Dave took a sip of his beer and leaned against his car in silence as his visible breath blended with smoke from a small grill to fill the chilly air near the two-man tailgate. Dave knew young Americans were dying in Iraq almost every day, including a soldier named <b>Pfc. Ross McGinnis</b>, who had died the previous weekend in Baghdad. The 19-year-old Knox, Pa., native, who dove on top of a grenade to save the lives of fellow Army soldiers, would later become the fourth U.S. service member to be awarded the Medal of Honor for heroism displayed in Iraq.<br />
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Dave was an avid reader, particularly of military-themed books and magazines, and was following the war closely. He knew Travis faced severe risks in Fallujah, particularly in a unit that guided Iraqi soldiers around the city's hostile streets. Though he never mentioned the full scope of his fears to [Travis's sister] Ryan, or for that matter Travis, he was worried about whether he would see his brother-in-law again. In fact, part of him wished he could talk Travis out of leaving, even though he knew it would be an exercise in futility.<br />
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'Hey, Trav, if I tripped you right now and you fell and broke your ankle, do you think they'd let you sit this deployment out?' he asked.<br />
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Travis chuckled at Dave's joke, but didn't say much in response. A brief moment of slightly awkward silence followed. Suddenly Travis spoke up.<br />
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'You know what though, Dave?' Travis said with an unmistakably serious look on his face. 'If I don't go, they're going to send another Marine in my place who doesn't have my training.'<br />
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'If not me, then who ... you know what I mean?' he continued. 'It's either me or that other guy who isn't ready, so I'm the one who has to get the job done.'"<br />
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<i>"Brothers Forever" will be released on May 13 and is available now for pre-order at <a href="http://www.brothersforeverbook.com/"><b>brothersforeverbook.com</b></a>.</i><br />
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